Culture governs opportunity. In a country, a company, or a couple, culture amplifies or restricts possibility. When it’s easy for us to move into a free-flowing state of creation, we’re in the right culture. The life we want is built into, not competing with, the culture’s way of life.
If we land somewhere that condemns our instinctive vision, we lose one-of-a-kind parts of ourselves, leaving us a spine of what might have been. We reduce ourselves to what an unloving, violent, or fearful culture will tolerate. ‘Because this is what we’ve always done’ becomes acceptable. But if we can’t answer the call on our lives from the windowless box we’re in, if it punishes life, we have no choice but to fight death with change.
To varying degrees, we can choose the culture and subcultures we want to be part of. We also shape the self-talk culture inside our own minds. Does this culture help us live honestly, or force us to betray our vision? Do we influence the way things go, or are we a puppet? Can we make decisions, or do we have to follow rigid patterns that make life difficult? Are we alone in our reality?
Being in harmony with people helps us feel alive. A culture that naturally creates the conditions we need to feel at peace, respected, and necessary to the whole will give us true belonging. We can be soft and human, rather than hard and protective against attack, and have the best shot at a worthwhile life, however we define it.
We require challenge to survive, but what we don’t need is the culture itself to be the challenge. If life is too predictable, too easy, we get soft. Bored. We lose the friction that keeps things alive. If it’s too controlled or predetermined, we lose hope. To manufacture our own challenge on our terms, we can force ourselves to the bottom of a hill so that we have to figure things out all over again. We can choose to destabilize ourselves enough to see life differently again. This is how we participate in our rebirth, and we need a culture that protects possibility.
We have to harness our chances in life. Opportunity alone doesn’t guarantee results. We have to show up and control what we can control: our will to live. Hopelessness emerges when possibility disappears. We need alternatives to survive, to have hope. We need an alternate path we could take, an alternative ending.
Quote: You are not fool’s gold, shining only under a particular light. Whomever you become, whatever you make yourself into, that is who you always were. Tara Westover
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