If we want to be happy, we have to lower our expectations. Life is not a never-ending winning streak. There’s no genie in the bottle waiting to deliver on our demands. Hard times are coming whether we plan for them or not.
Our insatiable need to win distorts reality. It keeps us in a constant state of reaction, swinging between greed and aggression. We can’t contain the force of life. Every time we handle one threat, another appears. Because we are part of a whole, we end up defeating ourselves. Money, power, possessions—they do not make our lives better. Maturity is recognizing that the reward—respect and status—never truly materializes.
Putting all our chips on the future being better than the present is a bad bet. If it isn’t, we burn with resentment and maybe even hopelessness. To make matters worse, we fail to enjoy the good times while they last.
As long as what we need to be happy is somewhere out there, happiness is impossible. If the only carrot is selling a book, I’ll miss the satisfaction of writing the essay today. The peak of our external accomplishment may be behind us, but that doesn’t mean time is up. We have a never-ending well of internal possibilities.
If we can’t postpone gratification, we’re done. To do that, we need a higher purpose—something more important than getting the Range Rover. We need to stop consuming and start building something that generates internal rewards. It protects our minds from becoming a landfill for the internet’s trash. We become more conscious and less compulsive.
If we’re on the path, the future will feel exactly like today; we’re already there. The reward is now.
Aging is non-negotiable. There is a definite end date for us all. If we are to be independent, we have to control our instinctual nature. We can’t grow if we are led around by our instincts. As long as we are predictable—lusting for sex and chasing money—we’re easy targets for those who profit from it. We’re pawns who believe we’re winning.
The point isn’t to expect less from life, but to stop expecting it from the wrong places. We need stronger internal standards and fewer external expectations. We have to live fully today. Love while we have the chance. Create for its own sake. Connect to the people in our lives. Determine our days. Control ourselves. Then we can be satisfied without needing anyone or anything to be different. We can forge strong bonds that will carry us through.
We can’t wait until we’re 80 to wake up and dignify ourselves with rebellion. Our lives are right now. Today.
Quote: The unhappy person is one who has his ideal… in some manner outside of himself. Soren Kierkegaard
Song Accompaniment: It’s A Great Day To Be Alive, Zac Brown Band
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